The Wife Wears Hijab, But Tempted To the Open Hijab Job
This problem is actually very complex, but I shorted it.
I was a man who worked at one of one of the state institutions in the field of law enforcement, I am a moslim religious, therefore I chose first bride can be brought to the world and the hereafter, although there are several candidates who have a mate who is given including to my parents, but I still choose my wife that now.
We do not get restru marriage of my parents, while my in-laws at the time agreed, the time I reached 25, I was so handsome with rank and has a strategic position at my institution. But with the passage of time we have created a beautiful daughter of that line I've let my parents my wife, Alhamdulullah.
In the first years a lot of which we must adjust to the habits and background on my employment is, but bit by bit I began to understand the condition of the wife of my job. In the past few issues we can finish well, but currently this issue previously, although other than that I think this thing is,. Indeed, the condition of my wife and not the same, I am a mother first familiarized with the simple life because my father was a soldier, so I was able to survive the economic conditions of this mediocre.
It's been 2 years my wife did not clear the job and income, since, out of the company to raise its office manager districk suddenly disappear and the economy turned into a mediocre. In the past when my wife was still in office we can meet the needs of arguably excessive, but now only when my salary as a civil servant who became handalannya.Terus frankly I do not want to do like most of my friends, for my salary is sufficient to provide for the child and my wife, I do not want my wife to eat from property that is not kosher, "naudzubilah mindzaalik".
The first year of unemployment wife no change attitudes that can destroy the faith. but now after 3 years my wife runs the depression and now plans to remove her hijab for a job that is a little tempting. Advice to coercion to my wife, but I did end up with a fuss until the words "divorce" out. The end of all this I am very sorry because after the victim was my son, but my wife's been like that "can not be controlled" and it looks like I was no longer able. There may be a solution of this blogger, please help me opinion or advice. Hence to understand and thank you.
Mas Ary
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Answer of Caregiver:
This problem is actually very complex, but I shorted it.
I was a man who worked at one of one of the state institutions in the field of law enforcement, I am a moslim religious, therefore I chose first bride can be brought to the world and the hereafter, although there are several candidates who have a mate who is given including to my parents, but I still choose my wife that now.
We do not get restru marriage of my parents, while my in-laws at the time agreed, the time I reached 25, I was so handsome with rank and has a strategic position at my institution. But with the passage of time we have created a beautiful daughter of that line I've let my parents my wife, Alhamdulullah.
In the first years a lot of which we must adjust to the habits and background on my employment is, but bit by bit I began to understand the condition of the wife of my job. In the past few issues we can finish well, but currently this issue previously, although other than that I think this thing is,. Indeed, the condition of my wife and not the same, I am a mother first familiarized with the simple life because my father was a soldier, so I was able to survive the economic conditions of this mediocre.
It's been 2 years my wife did not clear the job and income, since, out of the company to raise its office manager districk suddenly disappear and the economy turned into a mediocre. In the past when my wife was still in office we can meet the needs of arguably excessive, but now only when my salary as a civil servant who became handalannya.Terus frankly I do not want to do like most of my friends, for my salary is sufficient to provide for the child and my wife, I do not want my wife to eat from property that is not kosher, "naudzubilah mindzaalik".
The first year of unemployment wife no change attitudes that can destroy the faith. but now after 3 years my wife runs the depression and now plans to remove her hijab for a job that is a little tempting. Advice to coercion to my wife, but I did end up with a fuss until the words "divorce" out. The end of all this I am very sorry because after the victim was my son, but my wife's been like that "can not be controlled" and it looks like I was no longer able. There may be a solution of this blogger, please help me opinion or advice. Hence to understand and thank you.
Mas Ary
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Answer of Caregiver:
Assalamualikum Wr Wb,
Mas Ary dear,
May Allah give patience and resignation for what happens to families Mas Ary, nothing yng already Mas Ary maintain and do this for both the family and the work associated with a jihad Mas ary presented to God.
What happened to the family mas is a test from Allah to test his servant if he still istiqomah with his attitude or not, and it turns out the wife Mas is not strong enough to get through the ordeal. That Mas has been done as to prevent the husband and wife opened her headscarf is correct, just that the wife may not understand properly Mas obligation to veil and the nature of marriage.
Menage was not only for worldly interests have been much more important than that all is spiritual building in order to reach the pleasure of Allah, gave birth to a generation that is able to sustain / strengthen the struggle in gaining the pleasure of Allah.
Disadvantages treasure, not the big things that we should worry about but when we lose faith, what shall we bring when we die? not the wealth we accumulate, but it turns out the faith, pious children, pious charity we.
Need to do now is Mas ary:
1. Never bored to continue to remind the wife would mistake despite the negative response is received, never mind to take action, speech that is not supposed to be.
2. Because of Mas Ary had already said 'talaq' and then regret having said it, apologize and pull back as the wife remark 'talaq' is. Previous ask the same first wife if he still wants to build a home with Mas Ary? Does he still want to be a wife Mas?
3. If Mas has been reconciled, and the wife still want to build a home with Mas Ary, try to make a commitment, make agreements, including one on the job and wife.
4. If the wife no longer wants to build a home with Mas Ary, give him a chance to think over his mistake, and if he is still the same with his decision to stay do not want to refer back, so what may make just let it go. All decisions Mas will always be there to take risks. Now suppose Mas Ary survive building a home with a wife who does not 'obey' the husband, this will backfire on the one hand for Mas Mas conscience will always rebelled against the decision of the wife, on the other hand Mas should keep the child for the sake of domestic tranquility, when in fact all it is not a good example for children's mental development and education. Precisely with Mas Mas being istiqomah with confidence, it will provide education and good example for the child, he will learn right and wrong from the behavior of both parents. Furthermore, if once the wife does not obey her husband and dare violate its obligation to close aurat, then there is no guarantee what the wife did nothing wrong and the offense again ?.
Hopefully useful and can be a solution
Mas Ary dear,
May Allah give patience and resignation for what happens to families Mas Ary, nothing yng already Mas Ary maintain and do this for both the family and the work associated with a jihad Mas ary presented to God.
What happened to the family mas is a test from Allah to test his servant if he still istiqomah with his attitude or not, and it turns out the wife Mas is not strong enough to get through the ordeal. That Mas has been done as to prevent the husband and wife opened her headscarf is correct, just that the wife may not understand properly Mas obligation to veil and the nature of marriage.
Menage was not only for worldly interests have been much more important than that all is spiritual building in order to reach the pleasure of Allah, gave birth to a generation that is able to sustain / strengthen the struggle in gaining the pleasure of Allah.
Disadvantages treasure, not the big things that we should worry about but when we lose faith, what shall we bring when we die? not the wealth we accumulate, but it turns out the faith, pious children, pious charity we.
Need to do now is Mas ary:
1. Never bored to continue to remind the wife would mistake despite the negative response is received, never mind to take action, speech that is not supposed to be.
2. Because of Mas Ary had already said 'talaq' and then regret having said it, apologize and pull back as the wife remark 'talaq' is. Previous ask the same first wife if he still wants to build a home with Mas Ary? Does he still want to be a wife Mas?
3. If Mas has been reconciled, and the wife still want to build a home with Mas Ary, try to make a commitment, make agreements, including one on the job and wife.
4. If the wife no longer wants to build a home with Mas Ary, give him a chance to think over his mistake, and if he is still the same with his decision to stay do not want to refer back, so what may make just let it go. All decisions Mas will always be there to take risks. Now suppose Mas Ary survive building a home with a wife who does not 'obey' the husband, this will backfire on the one hand for Mas Mas conscience will always rebelled against the decision of the wife, on the other hand Mas should keep the child for the sake of domestic tranquility, when in fact all it is not a good example for children's mental development and education. Precisely with Mas Mas being istiqomah with confidence, it will provide education and good example for the child, he will learn right and wrong from the behavior of both parents. Furthermore, if once the wife does not obey her husband and dare violate its obligation to close aurat, then there is no guarantee what the wife did nothing wrong and the offense again ?.
Hopefully useful and can be a solution
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