He Wants To Wear Hijab and Her Family Don’t Want Her To

He wants to wear hijab and her family don’t want her to. Should she obey them?

I am a muslimah & am hoping 2 get married in a few mths
Insha'Allah. My parents are from Pakistan & would like me 2 wear a
traditional bridal outfit which consists of an embroidered scarf,
tunic & long, baggy skirt (lengha). Initially,I had no qualms
about wearing this outfit as I would be covered according 2 the
Islamic requirements 4 a woman. However, I was talking 2 a few
sisters who have commented that 4 me 2 wear such an outfit would
not be acceptable in Islam as it would be bright & some non-mahrem
men would c me in it. I am confused now as 2 what 2 do, because in
my whole family I am the only one who wears hijaab & 2 refuse 2
wear this outfit would cause major distress & upheaval in my
family,especially as I am already getting married outside the
family. But I also am aware that obedience 2 Allah (s.w.t)come
first & therefore am asking u 4 advice. 
I would appreciate a reply from yourselves at the earliest
oppurtunity with advice,evidences etc.


Praise be to Allaah. 

We appreciate your keenness and your efforts to seek advice. We
ask Allaah to make things easy for you and to give you a way out.
Women are commanded to conceal their adornment from strange men
who are not their mahrams, because Allaah says (interpretation of
the meaning):

“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at
forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal
sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that
which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or
outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves,
headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna
(i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal
their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or
their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons,
or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons,
or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the
(female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male
servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of
feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal
what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allaah to
forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful”

[al-Noor 24:31]

Hence it is required that the clothes with which a woman covers
herself should not be an adornment in themselves, because she is
commanded to conceal her adornment as stated above.

It is also essential that the clothing be wide and loose so that
it covers all the body, and it should be thick so that it is not
see-through.

You should advise your family and explain to them the necessity of
adhering to that which Allaah has prescribed and enjoined. Explain
that to your husband also, for he is responsible before Allaah and
is required to protect you and have protective jealousy concerning
you.

Ask Allaah to protect you and to guide your family to that which
is good; remain steadfast in what you are doing even if that makes
them angry and upset. For there is no obedience to any created
being if it involves disobedience towards the Creator, and it is
not permissible for you to obey your parents or husband in wearing
that which Allaah has forbidden, or neglecting to do something
that Allaah has enjoined, either at your wedding or afterwards.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“There is no obedience if it involves sin, rather obedience is
with regard to that which is good and proper.” Narrated by al-
Bukhaari, 7257; Muslim, 1840.

See also questions no. 11967, 6408, 6991, 5393; these questions
explain the ruling on hijab and the description of hijab. You
should read them and choose whatever is appropriate to show to
your parents so that they will be convinced of the shar’i ruling.

We ask Allaah to make you steadfast until death. And Allaah knows
best.