THIS is MY HIJAB.

 Source:http://onechinesemuslimah.blogspot.com/2013/01/my-hijab.html

 This Is My Hijab

What does Hijab mean to me?
It means that I am a protected pearl amongst the ocean of predators.
The hijab is a covering to conceal my external beauty.
My physically beauty is not for just ANYONE. It is for Allah, my One and Only Creator.
My physically beauty is for my husband and I want to remain pure for him.
My beauty is not cheap and it is not free.
I do not need to flaunt myself to people who do not even know my name.
I am beautiful and I don't need to show it off.
This is my Hijab.

Modesty is NOT in the eye of the beholder.
There is only one form of modesty and it is what is in the Qur'an and Sunnah.
A veil to hide our beautiful faces and a gown to hide our feminine figures.
Modesty represents my obedience to Allah.
This is what MODESTY means to me : Hazrat Abu Saeed Al-Khudri , “The Prophet of Allah was more bashful than a virgin concealed in her veil. Whenever he would dislike something it would be perceived from his face."(Ibn Majah)

Modesty is NOT caking on makeup on my face and showing off in the latest trends. This is no way bashful like a virgin concealed in her veil. Is it?
Modesty is NOT that maxi dress in H&M or Forever 21.
Modesty is NOT represented by hijabs shaped like a turban or earrings like chandelier.
Modesty is covered FULLY, head to toe in neutral colours that deflect the eyes of strange men.
Modesty is precious and it is only preserved correctly through believing men and women of Islam.
Modesty is that niqab on sale for $10.99 and that beautiful flowing abaya for $45.99!
That is Modesty!

Shyness is a sign of faith and it is my "makeup."
I hide myself in shyness.
I drown my face, my body, and my heart with shyness, because this is my "makeup."
I do not leave anywhere without it.
The best thing about shyness, is I don't need to buy it at the local drugstore or online.
I don't need to keep my shyness in my pink pouch along with the lipstick and eyeliner.
Shyness is something that I get from obeying my Lord and following His commands.
Shyness is better than eye shadow and the silky hijab with my earrings showing.
Shyness is fear of Allah and His Punishment of the Hellfire.
Shyness is copying the mother of believers, the Sahabiyyat and not copying Jennifer Lopez, Kim Kardashian and Princess Amirah (from Saudi).
Shyness is ordered by Allah for the believing slave.
Shyness is NOT posing in front of the camera and sharing your pout to the world.
Shyness is NOT making hijab and makeup tutorials on youtube.
Shyness is not showing all the ignorant Muslimahs that it is OK to beautify yourself for strangers.
If what you say is true, then bring your proof.

This is The Book I read.
The Qur'an and Sunnah.
It has verses reminding me of my Lord.
It is Words of Wisdom, Words of Warning, Words of Rules.
I obey this Book as best as I can.
It tells me what I should follow.
And that is not the hijabi bloggers who beautify themselves for the world to see.
It tells me right from wrong.
And it never says that I am allowed to beautify myself for others who are non-Mahram.
It tells me what is true modesty and shyness.
And it never tells me that I should wear makeup in public (& online) and look cute for strange men and women.
It tells me the truth.
That shyness is a branch of faith and modesty is concealing ones outward beauty.
The Book also tells me that modesty is also internal. I am not to smile for the camera, nor am I supposed to pose like a kafir fashion model, or am I to spread fitnah on my blogs with sexy photos in high heels and maxi dresses.
This is not in The Book I read.
This Book reminds me of the Hellfire and it's violent flames for those who disobey their Creator.
This Book never has told me once to advocate hijab as a trend, beautify my face, show off my hijab and make modesty a fashion statement.
This is what is in the Book I read.

My Hijab is my freedom of speech and my personal expression.
I feel dishonoured if I ever pair my Niqab with blackened eyes (kohl and eyeshadow).
I would feel absolutely cheap and oppressed if I ever beautified myself for random strange men who do not know me.
I wear running shoes so I can walk faster and not take my time to diddle daddle so people can see my latest Burberry sunglasses or Gucci shoes.
My Hijab is my honour, and my pride.
My Hijab represents what is in my heart and what is apparent, and that is obedience to MY Creator.
My Hijab is not some hot new trend.
My Hijab reflects my behavior and my character.
There is no makeup with my Hijab, nor is their idle talk about latest fashion trends.
My Hijab serves it's true purpose and that is to cover my adornments from head to toe.
I do not need to make myself beautiful to be heard.
I do not need to make myself beautiful to be seen.
I do not need to follow the slaves of fashion in order to succeed.
I do NOT need to defend my rights or my duty as a Muslimah with following fashion beauty queen hijabi bloggers.
I live to please Allah and not live to please others.
Nobody will avail me on the Day of Judgement, not even my closest sisters nor my parents.
I fear this Day, therefore I must make every minute of every second count. That starts with my modesty and obedience to my Lord.
THIS is MY Hijab.



May Allah forgive me for anything that I've said that has offended you, anything good I've said is from Allah and anything bad is from my own self and I seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan the accursed. Ameen!

QUICK RECAP on PROPER MODESTY & Reminders for us all insha'Allah.

Taken from the book, The Ideal Muslimah.

 **Paying attention to one's appearance should not make a Muslim woman fall into the trap of wanton
display (tabarruj) and showing her beauty to anyone other than her husband and mahram relatives. She should not upset the balance which is the basis of all Islamic teaching, for the Muslim woman always aims at moderation in all things, and is on the alert to prevent any one aspect of her life from taking over at the expense of another. She never forgets that Islam, which encourages her to look attractive within the permitted limits, is also the religion that warns her against going to such extremes that she becomes a slave to her appearance, as the hadith says: "Wretched is the slave of the dinar, dirham and fancy clothes of velvet and silk! If he is given, he is pleased, and if he is not given, he is displeased."(Fayd al-Bari, 6/81, Kitab al-jihad, bab al-hirasah fi'l-ghazw fi sabil-Allah) Our women today, many of whom have been influenced by the international fashion houses to such an extent that a rich women will not wear an outfit more than once, have fallen into that slavery of which the Prophet (Peace Be Upon him) warned and, as a result, they are trapped in the misery of that senseless enslavement to excessively luxurious clothing and accessories. Such women have deviated from the purpose for which humanity was created in this world. One of the worst excesses that many modern Muslim women have fallen into is the habit of showing off expensive outfits at wedding parties, which have become fashion shows where competition is rife and is taken to extremes far beyond the realms of common sense and moderation. This phenomenon becomes clearest when the bride herself wears all her outfits, which may number as many as ten, one after the other: each time she changes, she comes out and shows it off to the other women present, exactly like the fashion models in the West. It does not even occur to the women among whom this habit is common, that there may be women present who are financially unable to buy such outfits, and who may be feeling depressed and jealous, or even hostile towards the bride and her family, and other rich people. Nothing of this sort would happen if brides were more moderate, and just wore one or two outfits at their wedding parties. This is better than that extravagant showing-off which is contradictory to the balanced, moderate spirit of Islam. No doubt the Muslim woman who has surrounded herself with the teachings of this great religion is spared and protected from such foolish errors, because she has adopted its principles of moderation. (The Ideal Muslimah . Muhammad Al Hashimi )

Ibnu Katheer said:" Mujaahid said: 'A woman would go out and walk amongst men (i.e. intermingling). This was the Tabarruj of the Days of Ignorance.' Qataadah said: 'The women would walk out, swaggering and flirting so Allaah forbade them from doing that.' Muqaatil said: 'Tabarruj is when a woman places a khimaar on her head, not fastening it properly so that it will conceal her necklace, earrings and neck. As a result of this, these are all exposed from her. This is Tabarruj.'" [Mukhtasar Tafseer Ibn Katheer, (3/94)]

Imaam-ul-Qurtubee said: "From the ways of Tabarruj is that a woman wears two transparent garments that describe her (body)." [Tafseer-ul-Qurtubee, (12/310)]

Imaam-us-Sa'adee said: "Do not go out whilst you are beautified or perfumed, as the women of the Days of Ignorance used to do since they did not have any knowledge or religious characteristics." [Tafseer ibn Sa'adee, (6/107)]

Imaam-ul-Albaanee said: "Tabarruj is when a woman exposes her adornment, body features and all that she is obligated to cover, which invites the desires of men." [Hijaab-ul-Mar'at-il-Muslimah, p. 54]


The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Whoever is in love with his life in this world damages his life in the next world, and whoever is in love with his life in the next world damages his life in this world – and you should prefer what lasts forever to what is destined to vanish.” [Ahmad ibn Hanbal; al-Musnad]



Narrated by Al-Mughira: Sa'd bin 'Ubada said, "I will not hesitate killing my wife with a sword if I see her with another man" This news reached Allah's Apostle who then said, "You people are astonished at Sa'd's Ghira (jealousy for Islam, self-respect, self-honour). By Allah, I have more Ghira than he, and Allah has more Ghira than I, and because of Allah's Ghira, He has made unlawful shameful deeds and sins done in open and in secret. And there is none who likes that the people should repent to Him and beg His pardon than Allah, and for this reason He sent the warners and the givers of good news. And there is none who likes to be praised more than Allah does, and for this reason, Allah promised to grant Paradise (to the doers of good)." 'Abdul Malik said, "No person has more Ghira than Allah." (Sahih Bukhari)

"Haya comes from Iman; Iman leads to Paradise. Obscenity comes from antipathy; and antipathy leads to the fire." (Bukhari)

Yahya related to me from Malik from Salama ibn Safwan ibn Salama az-Zuraqi that Zayd ibn Talha ibn Rukana, who attributed it to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'Every deen has an innate character. The character of Islam is modesty.' "  (47.2.9 Malik Mutawwa)


    “And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear therof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, or their brothers’ sons or their sisters’ sons, or their women or the servants whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex, and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O you Believers, turn you all together towards Allah, that you may attain Bliss.” (Quran 24:31).

    “O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks close round them (when they go abroad). That will be better, so that they may be recognised and not annoyed. Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful.” (Quran 33:59)



“And when you ask (the Prophet’s wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen: that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts.” [al-Ahzab: 53]

“Be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner” [al-Ahzab: 32]



“Verily for every religion there is a characteristic, and the

 characteristic of Islam is Haya`a(modesty, shyness,

bashfulness)” [Ibn Majah]